Being a mom comes with a lot of emotions but none greater than love, it’s the deepest love feeling you’ll ever experience – for me anyway. Honestly there’s nothing like it, it’s the best thing I have ever become and to think it’s for life, makes it even better!
I can’t pretend it hasn’t changed me though, because literally my husband and I got our life as we knew it, flipped on its head when we found out I was pregnant. We rolled with parenthood and to this day, I can’t imagine life without my husband by my side raising our little pumpkin, Motheo. I think the change happens gradually as this new life shifts you from priority position (in your own life) to a point where this little bundle is the main focus. This actually happens as soon as you know you’re pregnant. Crazy.
As a new mom your patience will be tested by your new born , and right after that we have toddlerhood to handle. All I can say is silent prayers and mommy and daddy date-nights help.
Practising the art of letting go of all my rules and hang-ups. I’ve learned to let go of my need to have a spotless house and wanting everything in its place at all times, it hasn’t been easy and I honestly can’t say I’ll ever give this up completely, but I’m open to a bit of a mess on occasion.
My life went from being all about me and my husband (then boyfriend) to being all about our son and family life. We’ve both grown up so much through this married life and parenthood journey that our former selves are now just a blur. But we’ve transformed into these wonderful young parents who take care of one another and our home.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with taking time out for yourself. I say this because I used to be a ball of guilt whenever we went out and stayed out late – basically past our son’s bedtime. I’ve since learned that it is ok, it’s fine, he will survive an evening without me and, frankly, I need the time out for my sanity and youth.
All we need is love
There’s no truer truth. When I feel like things aren’t going the way they should and sulking is all I want to commit to, all I need is a kind word from my husband or my mom. Likewise with our kids, I’ve realised that as amazing as technology is, it’s a big ole thief. I’ve had to learn to tear myself away from my laptop and phone and just focus on him and only him. Most of the time Motheo just wants lots and lots of playtime, which in essence is really just love and attention.
There are definitely some more lessons we can chat about – what lessons have you learned as a new parent?